The Skinny Confidential Him & Her Show

Low Libido, Hormone Imbalances, & How To Reignite Your Sex Life Ft. Josh & Katy Whalen Of Joi + Blokes

March 13, 2026

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  • Hormone imbalances, specifically low testosterone in Josh, severely impacted the Whalens' marriage and sex life, leading to the inspiration for their business, Joi + Blokes. 
  • Testosterone optimization was a 'game changer' for Josh, restoring his sex drive and overall well-being, highlighting that low libido is often a correctable hormonal issue, not a personal failing. 
  • Modern lifestyle factors like chronic stress, poor diet, and lack of sunlight/activity contribute significantly to declining hormone levels (like low T) in men at younger ages. 
  • Focusing on comprehensive biomarker testing beyond just a few markers is crucial for longevity and overall health, not just sex hormones. 
  • When addressing low libido in a relationship, partners should focus on systemic health issues (like hormone imbalances) rather than personal blame, as conventional practitioners often overlook blood work. 
  • Josh and Katy Whalen emphasize that their clinicians' secret sauce is prioritizing listening to patient symptoms before treatment, leading to hopeful outcomes for those who feel unheard by traditional medicine. 

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Founders’ Origin Story
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(00:00:13)
  • Key Takeaway: Josh’s 60-pound weight gain and subsequent loss of sex drive nearly caused his divorce, prompting his health overhaul.
  • Summary: Josh experienced severe low libido and weight gain, leading his wife, Katy, to threaten divorce, which served as the catalyst for his health journey. His initial attempts to address this with primary care doctors were dismissive, telling him he was ’normal.’ A consultation with an optimization guru revealed severe metabolic issues, including pre-diabetes and testosterone levels comparable to a 70-year-old man.
Causes of Hormone Imbalance
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(00:04:54)
  • Key Takeaway: Josh’s hormone imbalance stemmed from a combination of hard partying, high-stress career demands, and the emotional trauma of fertility struggles.
  • Summary: Contributing factors included a past lifestyle of heavy drinking and rich food associated with his career, alongside the significant emotional stress from multiple miscarriages and IVF treatments. Katy experienced her own hormonal crash post-childbirth, characterized by weight gain, anxiety, and brain fog, demonstrating that hormonal shifts affect both partners.
Testosterone as a Marriage Saver
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  • Key Takeaway: Testosterone replacement therapy was identified as the direct solution that restored Josh’s libido and saved the marriage.
  • Summary: Josh achieved a ‘zero to hero’ transformation in three months after starting testosterone, marked by the return of morning erections. The couple explicitly states that optimizing hormones literally saved their marriage, emphasizing that low libido is often a correctable biological issue rather than a relationship failure.
Hormone Replacement Normalization
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  • Key Takeaway: Testosterone optimization should be viewed as a necessary tool for graceful aging, similar to supplementing Vitamin D when deficient.
  • Summary: The hosts argue there should be no shame in addressing declining hormone levels, as it is a natural process that occurs with age. Katy noted that after addressing her own thyroid issues, starting testosterone later helped her body function better, allowing her to eventually get off thyroid medication.
Peptide Therapy Basics
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(00:16:38)
  • Key Takeaway: The starting point for peptide or hormone therapy should always be comprehensive lab work to establish a baseline.
  • Summary: Micro-dosing has become popular in the peptide space, particularly with GLP-1s, allowing for personalized dosing to minimize side effects. Peptides are considered the ‘cherry on top,’ meaning foundational health (diet, nutrition) must be addressed first for maximum efficacy. Sourcing and medical supervision are critical due to risks associated with unverified research peptides.
Addressing Low T Causes
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  • Key Takeaway: Low testosterone in younger men is strongly linked to chronic stress (high cortisol), metabolic dysfunction (insulin issues), and a sedentary lifestyle lacking sun exposure and physical labor.
  • Summary: The speakers note that cortisol and testosterone compete for resources, meaning high stress directly lowers T levels. They emphasize that modern desk jobs, lack of sun, and poor diet are major drivers of low T, contrasting this with men who work with their hands and maintain high natural levels.
Biomarker Importance & Longevity
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(00:51:14)
  • Key Takeaway: Comprehensive blood work now offers extensive data points relevant to longevity, heart disease, and cancer, moving beyond simple sex hormone checks.
  • Summary: Listeners are encouraged to approach partners about getting extensive blood work, framing it around longevity and major health risks like heart disease and cancer, not just sex hormones. Biomarker ranges are now more detailed, allowing focus on numerous data points outside of just sex hormones. This broader approach can make discussing health in a relationship less personal and confrontational.
Past Regrets and Health Wake-up
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  • Key Takeaway: Josh realized his past unhealthy state put him at risk of dying by age 45 due to family history of heart disease and being pre-diabetic.
  • Summary: Josh expressed that knowing his current health status, he would have strongly warned his past self about the severe health risks he faced, including being pre-diabetic. He emphasizes the need to live long enough to be active for his young children when they reach their 30s and 40s. This realization underscores the obligation to prioritize health for family longevity.
Advice for Women on Partner Issues
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(00:53:32)
  • Key Takeaway: Women struggling with a partner’s low libido should be advised that the issue is likely physiological and not a reflection of their own fault.
  • Summary: Katy advises women not to blame themselves or look inward when a partner experiences issues like low libido, asserting that it is often the partner’s physiological issue that needs addressing. She shared that she eventually drew a line, stating the situation was not working and her partner needed to resolve his issues.
Failure of Traditional Therapy
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  • Key Takeaway: Multiple visits to marriage counselors, doctors, and sex therapists failed to suggest checking testosterone or blood work as a potential root cause.
  • Summary: Despite seeking help from marriage counselors and sex therapists, including sessions involving props like a stuffed vagina, none of the professionals suggested getting blood work or checking testosterone levels. These traditional routes typically defaulted to attributing issues solely to mental stress.
Joi + Blokes Onboarding Process
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(00:55:17)
  • Key Takeaway: Prospective clients begin with an online health history form, followed by an optional consultation with integrative, functional clinicians who prioritize listening.
  • Summary: The process for starting peptide therapy involves filling out an online form, with the option to meet with a clinician who possesses functional training beyond traditional medical education. The company mandates that clinicians listen thoroughly to symptoms, which they consider a ‘secret sauce’ for patient hope and positive outcomes.
Sex Life as Integral Development
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(00:57:18)
  • Key Takeaway: People dedicate significant effort to personal, business, and physical development but often neglect their sex life, treating it as an assumed given.
  • Summary: Sex life is an integral component for intimacy and connection, yet it is often sidelined due to taboos, unlike other life areas where people actively seek seminars, books, and courses. Neglecting focus on the sex life, like any other area, leads to decline. Open communication about needs, stemming from health optimization, is key to improving intimacy.
Promotional Offer Details
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  • Key Takeaway: Listeners can receive 25% off their first Joi + Blokes purchase and 65% off diagnostic labs using the code SKINNY at joyandblokes.com/skinny.
  • Summary: The hosts reiterate the generous offer from Josh and Katy Whalen for listeners of The Skinny Confidential Him & Her Show. The discount applies to the first purchase and significantly reduces the cost of diagnostic labs. The Instagram handles for the companies are @JoyWomensWellness (J-O-I) and @GetBlokes.