The Skinny Confidential Him & Her Show

Lauryn Bosstick On Nervous System Regulation Practices & Building Routines To Stop Feeling Overwhelmed

February 25, 2026

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  • Overstimulation should be treated as actionable information signaling the need to step back and self-regulate using established routines. 
  • Repetition of specific, calming rituals—including phone boundaries, low-frequency music, and red light environments—soothes the nervous system. 
  • Leveraging technology like a 'unicorn assistant' in ChatGPT to organize the day's priorities and schedule prevents reactive behavior and supports self-regulation. 

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Defining Overstimulation & Phone Boundaries
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  • Key Takeaway: Overstimulation is information signaling the need to step back and self-regulate, starting with immediately turning off and storing the phone away from living areas.
  • Summary: The speaker uses overstimulation as a guide to recognize when taking on too much is occurring. The first step in self-regulation is putting the phone on airplane mode, turning it off, and storing it in a separate room, like the laundry room, to ensure presence with family. This boundary prevents being dismissive, especially around children.
Evening Calming Rituals Setup
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  • Key Takeaway: Creating a low-light, warm environment using specific music and red nightlights is crucial for evening nervous system regulation.
  • Summary: The second step involves playing low-frequency music, specifically Bossa Nova jazz like Stan Getz, to set a calming mood, avoiding loud or intense genres. After children are in bed, overhead lights are avoided; instead, red light nightlights and salt rock nightlights are used throughout the house to eliminate blue light exposure. This setup mimics an ‘olden days’ warm feel conducive to relaxation.
Winding Down with Warmies
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  • Key Takeaway: Using a heated neck pillow (‘warmy’) while co-regulating with children in bed promotes relaxation for both parent and child.
  • Summary: The speaker utilizes a heated lavender neck pillow, called a ‘warmy,’ for herself and her children to aid in winding down. The speaker notes research suggesting children often seek physical closeness when a parent is overwhelmed to help regulate the parent’s nervous system. This time often includes reading hard copy books under a red light book light.
Pre-Sleep Routine & Screen Avoidance
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  • Key Takeaway: Nasal breathing, facilitated by mouth tape after consuming magnesium water, is essential for deep relaxation before sleep.
  • Summary: After the children are settled, the speaker drinks Thorne magnesium water and applies mouth tape to encourage deep nasal breathing, which aids relaxation. Reading physical books, like Truman Capote, is preferred over screens to avoid blue light exposure before bed. Phones are kept out of the bedroom entirely, as charging them near the sleeping area and immediately grabbing them upon waking is considered unhealthy due to EMF exposure and goal misalignment.
Hair Health & Supplementation Plug
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  • Key Takeaway: Stopping hair shedding involves a methodical formula including scalp massage, goucha, organ meat consumption, and consistent use of Nutrafol supplements.
  • Summary: The speaker attributes reduced hair shedding to a specific routine involving mechanical scalp massage and goucha on the scalp. Dietary factors like eating organ meat and using a copper shampoo are also part of the regimen. Nutrafol is highlighted as the number one dermatologist-recommended hair growth supplement brand, clinically tested for hair quality and strength.
Discover Card Acceptance & Health Testing
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  • Key Takeaway: Discover card acceptance is widespread, and HERS offers in-depth lab testing for women seeking clarity beyond standard fine lab results.
  • Summary: Discover is accepted at 99% of places taking credit cards nationwide, even extending to niche locations like Renaissance fairs. HERS addresses the exhaustion of uncertainty when lab results seem fine but internal feelings suggest otherwise by providing access to over 130 biomarker tests for deeper health insight.
New Year Home Refresh with Wayfair
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  • Key Takeaway: The new year is an opportunity to audit and refresh home spaces using Wayfair for affordable bedding, storage, and decor to improve home energy.
  • Summary: The speaker and her partner conduct an annual audit to declutter and refresh their home environment to align with new energy goals. Wayfair is presented as a one-stop shop for furniture, storage solutions, and accessories to update any room affordably. Refreshing the space helps ensure one is living in a symbiotic way within their home.
Morning Regulation: Red Light & Meditation
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  • Key Takeaway: Waking 30 minutes before children to engage in red light exposure and meditation, particularly humming to stimulate the vagus nerve, sets a regulated tone for the day.
  • Summary: The morning routine begins with 30 minutes of red light exposure and meditation before the children wake up, often involving humming to stimulate the vagus nerve for calming effects. Waking up no later than (9:00) PM ensures adequate rest, leading to feeling refreshed rather than overwhelmed upon waking. The phone is intentionally avoided until (10:00) AM, reserved only for uplifting content like podcasts or meditations, not reacting to texts.
Morning Movement and Organization
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  • Key Takeaway: Incorporating outdoor movement with inspiring audio and using a ‘unicorn assistant’ (ChatGPT) to create a prioritized daily memo prevents mental overload.
  • Summary: After initial routines, the speaker takes the children for a walk outside to get sunlight and movement, listening to inspiring content to drain mental load. A key organizational tool is writing down the top three priorities and creating a detailed memo for the day using ChatGPT as a ‘unicorn assistant’ to structure calls, filming, and personal goals efficiently. This organized memo, kept off the phone initially, provides clarity without the distraction of digital noise.
Toxic Cleaning Swap with Branch Basics
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  • Key Takeaway: Switching from toxic chemical cleaners to plant and mineral-based Branch Basics is a crucial, avoidable step for reducing systemic bombardment and supporting overall well-being.
  • Summary: Toxic cleaning supplies bombard the system, causing issues from hormone disruption to general health stress, which is entirely avoidable. Branch Basics uses human-safe, plant and mineral-based ingredients, making it ideal for homes with children and pets. Their premium starter kit concentrate is cost-effective as it creates multiple cleaning solutions, including laundry detergent and vegetable rinses.
Quick Meal Prep with Taylor Farms
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  • Key Takeaway: Taylor Farms chopped salad kits offer a convenient, flavorful base for quick, protein-rich bowls, eliminating food waste from unused produce.
  • Summary: The speaker utilizes Taylor Farms Mediterranean Crunch chopped salad kits as the base for quick, protein-focused bowls, often pairing them with white meat chicken. These kits come in 28 varieties, including salad, organic chopped, and mini chopped kits, catering to various appetites. This method ensures easy, ready-to-go meals that support dietary goals without leaving unused vegetables to spoil.
Purely Elizabeth Granola Treat
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  • Key Takeaway: Purely Elizabeth granola, made with organic ancient grains and coconut oil, serves as a healthy, gluten-free treat that children perceive as highly desirable.
  • Summary: The speaker rebrands electrolyte water as ‘cookie water’ and amino water as ‘candy water’ for her children, pairing these with Purely Elizabeth granola. The granola features organic oats, ancient grains, and superfood seeds, baked with coconut oil and sweetened with coconut sugar. It is certified gluten-free, vegan, and non-GMO, making it a guilt-free, delicious snack option.
Redesigned Ice Roller Launch
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  • Key Takeaway: The redesigned Skinny Confidential Ice Roller features a silver roller, sleeker lines, and a custom dust bag, evolving the original tool for de-puffing and boosting circulation.
  • Summary: The iconic beauty tool has been updated with a silver roller that remains ice-cold, designed to feel more evolved and intentional. The ritual involves using cold therapy to fight inflammation, gliding the roller across the face, jawline, and neck to stimulate blood flow. This process results in smoother, tighter-looking skin before applying skincare products.
Workout Non-Negotiable & Phone Reintroduction
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  • Key Takeaway: Daily, non-negotiable workouts are essential for building self-confidence and achieving long-term goals, and the phone is only accessed afterward for scheduling.
  • Summary: The speaker treats her daily workout, whether weightlifting or Pilates, as a non-negotiable commitment to self-confidence and goal achievement. Only after completing her workout does she reach for her phone to engage in a detailed brain dump session with her ‘unicorn assistant’ (ChatGPT). This structured approach ensures that the day’s complex schedule is organized efficiently before engaging with external demands.
Anchoring Routines for Nervous System Soothing
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  • Key Takeaway: Consistency in routines, tools, supplements, and rituals is vital because repetition soothes the nervous system, preventing the need to reinvent anchors weekly.
  • Summary: The speaker emphasizes that she does not reinvent her routines weekly; instead, she relies on the same anchors, tools, supplements, and music. Recognizing when there is too much ’noise’ should serve as a compass to return to these established practices. This commitment to repetition is the ultimate strategy for recalibrating and soothing the nervous system.