The Skinny Confidential Him & Her Show

Chriselle Lim On Personal Transformation, Healthy Breakups, Boundaries, & Embracing Change

November 13, 2025

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  • Motherhood forces extreme productivity, leading to a realization that previous levels of 'busyness' were inefficient. 
  • The stillness imposed by COVID-19 propelled many entrepreneurs, including Chriselle Lim, to confront long-buried personal issues, such as divorce. 
  • For public figures, navigating divorce in the digital age requires careful boundary setting regarding children's privacy, often leading to follower backlash when boundaries are established. 
  • Maturing in relationships involves proactively discussing difficult topics like prenuptial agreements and how assets would be divided, even if marriage is not immediately planned. 
  • Chriselle Lim dissolved years of facial fillers after realizing they caused a puffy appearance, advocating for long-term beauty strategies over constant upkeep, and noting the importance of facial massage to prevent filler from becoming lumpy. 
  • PHLUR's success, particularly with the scent 'Missing Person,' was driven by authentic storytelling around loss and loneliness, creating an emotional connection that led to a massive waitlist despite customers never smelling the product first. 

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Catching Up Since Last Appearance
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(00:00:24)
  • Key Takeaway: Chriselle Lim’s life has significantly evolved since her 2019 appearance, marked by major personal transitions and business activity.
  • Summary: Chriselle Lim returned to The Skinny Confidential Him & Her Show after 700 episodes, noting she is a ‘whole new person.’ The previous appearance was in July 2019, pre-COVID and before the birth of her first child. The hosts noted that motherhood often forces extreme efficiency and productivity in time management.
Major Life Transitions Overview
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  • Key Takeaway: Chriselle Lim’s major life updates include getting a divorce, relaunching and selling the fragrance brand PHLUR, and becoming engaged to a new partner.
  • Summary: The major life moments since the last interview include a divorce finalized in 2021, acquiring and subsequently selling her fragrance brand, PHLUR. She now has two children and is engaged to a new partner.
COVID’s Role in Divorce Decision
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  • Key Takeaway: The forced stillness during COVID-19 provided the necessary moment for Chriselle Lim to realize her marriage was unsustainable and make the decision to divorce.
  • Summary: The pandemic stoppage allowed for reflection, enabling Chriselle Lim to address issues she had previously buried under the rug due to a busy, go-go-go lifestyle. This realization propelled the decision to end her marriage, which was officially finalized in 2021.
Navigating Public Divorce Announcement
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  • Key Takeaway: Announcing a divorce publicly requires protecting children’s privacy, which led Chriselle Lim to significantly reduce posting about her kids after the separation.
  • Summary: The divorce announcement was made jointly with her ex-husband after about a year into the process, with comments turned off to manage potential negativity. She consciously decided to post less about her children afterward, as followers felt attached to their story, leading to a difficult shift in content boundaries.
Advice on Unhappiness in Marriage
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  • Key Takeaway: True readiness to leave an unhappy marriage is signaled by a deep, unwavering knowledge that action must be taken, not just by fleeting feelings of unhappiness.
  • Summary: Chriselle advises that leaving a marriage requires more than just feeling unhappy, as emotions fluctuate daily. The critical indicator is a ‘burning desire’ and readiness to walk away; if one is unsure, they are not ready yet. She assures listeners that immense happiness awaits on the other side of such difficult decisions.
Finding Peace Post-Divorce
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  • Key Takeaway: The first moment of peace after a major life upheaval is often subtle, characterized by the nervous system calming down enough to notice simple sensory details.
  • Summary: Chriselle Lim first felt peace while walking to the park when she noticed the wind blowing her hair, realizing she was finally present and noticing feelings she had previously ignored. This aligns with the idea that the true luxury in life is achieving a calm nervous system, as fight-or-flight mode prevents experiencing present moments.
Entrepreneurial Stress Preference
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  • Key Takeaway: Many entrepreneurs thrive on the chaos and pressure of the unknown, finding absolute certainty and predictability more stressful than managing ongoing problems.
  • Summary: Michael Bosstick admitted to enjoying the stress and chaos inherent in entrepreneurship, preferring the unknown challenges over guaranteed stability. Chriselle agreed that problem-solving ability is crucial for entrepreneurs, though she noted that this stress preference does not extend to family emergencies like a child getting hurt.
Career Blueprint and Evolution
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  • Key Takeaway: Chriselle Lim’s career longevity stems from her ability to evolve and avoid becoming ‘fragile’ or stuck on a single platform or method.
  • Summary: Her superpower is not being ‘fragile’ and being willing to let go of past successful strategies when they no longer serve her, allowing her to pivot easily. During COVID, she successfully adopted the ‘Rich Mom’ persona on TikTok, uploading five to ten videos daily as a distraction while navigating her divorce.
Behind-the-Scenes Hardship
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  • Key Takeaway: During her divorce, Chriselle Lim experienced severe emotional distress, requiring her parents to temporarily move in to help care for her children and support her recovery.
  • Summary: Unseen by followers were moments of crying on the floor, leading her parents to sell their home and move in temporarily to help manage the children. This period highlighted the human reality behind a public persona, emphasizing that even successful figures experience loneliness and sadness.
Dating Post-Divorce Mindset
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  • Key Takeaway: After her divorce, Chriselle Lim adopted a mindset where any new partner must be a significant ‘additive asset’ because she already possessed everything she needed for happiness.
  • Summary: Having experienced freedom and enjoying her success for the first time, she was not actively seeking a relationship. She met her fiancé, Sebastian, a year later during Paris Fashion Week, though she initially assumed he was gay due to working in the fashion industry.
Prenups and Relationship Wisdom
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  • Key Takeaway: Wiser individuals discuss prenups as a necessary, mature consideration for unraveling potential future complications in successful relationships.
  • Summary: The speakers acknowledge the intelligence in discussing prenuptial agreements, recognizing that learning from experience leads to being smarter about such paperwork. They note that if a marriage were to end, untangling assets and shared business structures would be a complex ‘spider web of a mess.’ This conversation highlights the maturity of addressing potential negative outcomes proactively rather than avoiding hard conversations.
Boll & Branch Sheets Endorsement
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  • Key Takeaway: Boll & Branch signature sheets, made from 100% organic cotton, offer an ideal balance of softness and breathability, improving sleep quality.
  • Summary: The speaker highly values high-quality sleep, emphasizing the importance of their sheets, which get softer with every wash. These sheets are made from 100% organic cotton and provide the ideal balance of softness and breathability. A special offer is available: 25% off site-wide plus free shipping at bollandbranch.com/skinny with code skinny.
Kendra Scott Holiday Gifting
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  • Key Takeaway: Kendra Scott offers a warm, inviting destination for holiday gifting across fashion, demi-fine, and fine jewelry, including custom design options.
  • Summary: The speaker is currently wearing a delicate cross necklace from Kendra Scott and recommends the brand for holiday presents for everyone on the list. The holiday collection features beautiful pieces ready to shop, and customers can also utilize the Color Bar for custom jewelry design both in-store and online. Shoppers can visit kendrascott.com/gifts to begin shopping.
Everyday Dose Coffee Benefits
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  • Key Takeaway: Everyday Dose combines high-quality coffee with functional ingredients like lion’s mane, chaga, and collagen to provide clean, sustained energy without jitters or crashes.
  • Summary: This coffee product is formulated to fuel the brain and boost focus by incorporating nootropics and functional mushrooms alongside the coffee. The speaker experienced increased focus and productivity during a trip while using it, noting it did not cause the bloating sometimes associated with coffee on an empty stomach. Listeners can receive 61% off their first Coffee Plus Starter Kit, plus free gifts, at everydaydose.com/skinny with code SKINNY.
WooMore Play Intimacy Products
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  • Key Takeaway: WooMore Play offers non-toxic, organic intimacy products, including a highly recommended vibrator and a coconut love oil that is edible and tastes like a cupcake.
  • Summary: The speaker stresses the importance of self-pleasure and intimacy in all relationship contexts, endorsing the brand’s vibrator as the only one they use. Their coconut lube is highlighted as organic, non-toxic, and safe to ingest, making it versatile for massage or sexual activity. Products can be purchased at Fascinations, using code SKINNY30 for 30% off all WooMore Play items.
Unraveling Marriage Complications
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  • Key Takeaway: Having open, non-judgmental conversations about the practical, business-related unraveling of a marriage is a sign of relationship maturity.
  • Summary: The discussion returns to the complexity of divorce paperwork, especially when couples have intertwined businesses and assets, likening the potential separation to a ‘spider web.’ The speaker values being able to bring up any subject, even the deepest, darkest questions, without feeling judged by their partner, Sebastian. This honesty allows them to plan for ‘how that would look like’ if the relationship did not work out, which is seen as becoming smarter.
Filler Dissolving and Under Eye Surgery
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  • Key Takeaway: The speaker dissolved years of facial fillers after realizing they caused a puffy appearance, leading to the discovery of a fat pad that required specialized under-eye smoothing surgery instead of more filler.
  • Summary: The speaker dissolved all their fillers after noticing a persistent puffy look, which was caused by migrated filler material. Their dermatologist advised against refilling the area due to the underlying fat pad, recommending an under-eye procedure to smooth the fat instead. This experience led the speaker to prioritize longevity-focused beauty treatments over upkeep like monthly fillers.
Long-Term Beauty Strategy
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  • Key Takeaway: Younger generations starting cosmetic procedures earlier need a long-term strategy because filler accumulates over decades, potentially leading to unforeseen issues.
  • Summary: The speaker notes that many people start cosmetic procedures younger without considering the next 60 or 70 years of their life, necessitating a long-term plan. They mention that filler, when done little by little over time, eventually accumulates, forcing people to deal with the consequences later. Furthermore, deep facial massage or lymphatic work is suggested to help the filler integrate or move through the system, preventing lumpiness.
PHLUR Acquisition and Scent Philosophy
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  • Key Takeaway: PHLUR redefined the fragrance category by launching ‘Missing Person’ D2C based on a story of loss, creating a scent that becomes part of the wearer’s skin musk rather than being overtly projected.
  • Summary: PHLUR was recently acquired after four years of relaunching the brand to pioneer a new fragrance expression for the current generation. The hit scent, ‘Missing Person,’ sold out with a 250,000-person waitlist because its emotional resonance—tied to heartbreak and loneliness—caused users to cry upon smelling it. The brand’s formula often includes a musk or light sandalwood base, ensuring the scent dries down to smell like the wearer with a subtle addition, avoiding overly heady projection.