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Bre Tiesi On The Truth Behind Selling Sunset, Motherhood, Personal Boundaries, & Finding Your Balance

November 27, 2025

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  • Filming reality TV for *Selling Sunset* is an emotionally and physically draining 10-12 hour commitment on filming days, requiring significant time away from family. 
  • Bre Tiesi maintains strong personal boundaries, learned from her mother, which she applies to contract negotiations by being prepared to walk away from unfavorable terms. 
  • Real estate is a full-time career requiring proper initial setup with legal and financial professionals (CPA, attorneys) to avoid costly cleanups later, contrary to the misconception that it can be a side hustle. 
  • Bre Tiesi emphasizes that working mothers must be creative to maintain connection with their child, highlighting the difficulty of balancing career and motherhood while navigating postpartum physical and mental recovery. 
  • Bre Tiesi considers daily workouts, starting at 6 a.m., to be a non-negotiable for her well-being, incorporating weight training, Pilates, and hot yoga. 
  • The conversation strongly advocates for greater societal grace and education regarding the significant, long-term physical and chemical changes women experience postpartum, noting that reality TV filming schedules often ignore these realities. 

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Joining Selling Sunset
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  • Key Takeaway: Bre Tiesi joined Selling Sunset because the opportunity was repeatedly presented to her.
  • Summary: Bre Tiesi felt compelled to join the Netflix hit series Selling Sunset after the idea was brought up multiple times. She felt it made sense given her quick wit and ability to handle the show’s dynamics. The decision was less of a singular choice and more of a culmination of repeated suggestions.
Reality TV Behind The Scenes
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  • Key Takeaway: Reality TV filming involves 10-12 hour days, including extensive travel time, leading to emotional exhaustion that is difficult to recover from.
  • Summary: Filming for Selling Sunset consumes a full day, often requiring two hours of travel each way due to location differences between Calabasas and Sunset. The emotional energy spent dealing with fighting and cattiness is exhausting and requires a necessary reset period between filming blocks. The drama seen on screen is real, not scripted, making it hard to switch off.
Reality of On-Screen Conflict
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  • Key Takeaway: The ‘batshit crazy’ fighting among the cast members would occur even without cameras present.
  • Summary: Bre Tiesi confirmed that the cast members would naturally get into conflict even without cameras, though filming heightens these situations. Producers intentionally cast women with personalities known to clash. Bre’s more masculine energy sometimes makes her react strongly when backed into a corner, which is not her natural state.
Handling Relationship Gossip
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  • Key Takeaway: Bre Tiesi was prepared for her relationship with Nick Cannon to be a target for gossip on the show, claiming nothing said could be used against her because she lives openly.
  • Summary: Bre knew her relationship status would be a point of contention for other cast members, particularly Chelsea. Her strategy was to own her past and current life openly, which ultimately garnered her public support when others tried to use the narrative against her. She notes that people who pretend to be happy are more susceptible to having the wind taken out of their sails.
Contract Negotiation Advice
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  • Key Takeaway: Successful contract negotiation requires knowing exactly what you are signing, what can be negotiated, and being genuinely willing to walk away from the opportunity.
  • Summary: Bre emphasizes the importance of understanding all aspects of a contract before signing, including non-negotiable boundaries. She has walked away from opportunities multiple times when boundaries were crossed, despite seeing the potential financial gain. She stresses that producers must be held accountable when blatant lies are allowed to air, as she did after Season 7.
Real Estate Career Truths
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  • Key Takeaway: Real estate is a full-time career, not a side hustle, and successful sales often require years of relationship building before a commission is earned.
  • Summary: Bre obtained her license in 2016, leveraging past bottle service clients to transition into real estate, achieving $20 million in her first full year. Selling a high-value home, like the $17 million property she sold, took two and a half years of consistent work. Misconceptions include thinking it’s a side hustle; it demands full dedication, and building a trusted name takes time.
Real Estate Investment Insights
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  • Key Takeaway: Smart real estate investment depends on location and intended use, with the sweet spot for LA clients often being $3.5 to $5 million for homes with full amenities.
  • Summary: In the LA market, buyers often seek homes with extensive amenities like basketball courts or movie theaters, though homes above $6 million become ‘pretty crazy.’ Bre notes that residential property is not always an appreciating asset, and buyers must consider market corrections and liquidity when purchasing. Investment properties require careful analysis of overhead, maintenance, and the ability to cover costs if vacant for extended periods.
Lessons from Nick Cannon
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  • Key Takeaway: Bre learned from Nick Cannon the importance of letting go of things she cannot control, contrasting with her natural tendency to stress and try to fix everything.
  • Summary: Bre’s lesson from Nick is to adopt a ’let it go’ philosophy regarding uncontrollable situations, which she struggles with as a Type A personality. Conversely, Nick has learned from her to actively enjoy life and have fun, as he can sometimes become ‘old and crotchety.’ While Nick enjoys the reality TV gossip, he often reverts to his philosophy of not letting uncontrollable drama affect him.
Motherhood and Organization
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  • Key Takeaway: Bre maintains a highly organized, written-out, day-by-day skincare routine (Monday-Friday) to prioritize her wellness while ensuring she maximizes quality time with her son.
  • Summary: Bre is extremely organized, using labeled systems for her skincare routine, which she performs nightly with her son present. She dedicates weekends entirely to her son, which helps build a secure attachment based on trust and predictability. This structure allows her to manage her busy schedule, ensuring her son knows when she will return from work trips.
Motherhood and Attachment
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  • Key Takeaway: Working mothers must creatively find ways to connect with their child to foster secure attachment.
  • Summary: Attachment building is crucial, and mothers who work must be intentional about finding connection methods when time is limited. The concept of secure attachment was mentioned in relation to bonding techniques. The speaker noted that partners sometimes get neglected when the mother focuses on the child.
Diet and Fitness Routine
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  • Key Takeaway: Consistent morning workouts, including weight training, Pilates, and hot yoga, are non-negotiable for Bre Tiesi’s mental state.
  • Summary: Bre Tiesi begins her workouts, usually weight training, around (6:00) or (6:30) a.m. daily for at least an hour. She incorporates Pilates and hot yoga, sometimes doing two workouts a day, noting her partner joins her for hot yoga and Pilates twice a week. She also uses Peloton for cardio and enjoys boxing to switch up her routine.
Postpartum Recovery Challenges
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  • Key Takeaway: Snapback after childbirth is difficult without proper sleep, nutrition, and supplementation, contrary to expectations based on pre-pregnancy fitness levels.
  • Summary: It is challenging to maintain fitness postpartum due to lack of sleep and improper nutrition. Statistics suggest new parents face approximately six years of disrupted sleep, resetting with each subsequent child. Bre Tiesi was filming for Selling Sunset only six weeks postpartum while wearing a diaper, highlighting extreme industry pressure.
Postpartum Grace and Industry Pressure
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  • Key Takeaway: Women are often not given adequate grace to deal with postpartum physical and chemical imbalances, leading to misdiagnosis or unfair judgment.
  • Summary: It takes a minimum of two years for a woman’s body and brain to fully reset after pregnancy, a process that restarts with each new child. The pressure to appear fine while experiencing chemical imbalances is immense, often leading to women being unfairly painted as ‘crazy’ or depressed. Bre Tiesi noted that the expectations placed on women in her industry are ‘diabolical.’
Partner Reactions to Postpartum Changes
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  • Key Takeaway: Men often lack understanding of postpartum changes, sometimes reacting negatively when capable partners temporarily lose their usual capacity.
  • Summary: The speaker theorizes that because women have a high capacity for handling burdens, partners may fail to recognize the severity of postpartum changes. This lack of understanding can lead to partners ‘switching up’ or fighting when the new mother is struggling. Greater education is needed, as many men do not understand the hormonal shifts that can cause a temporary ‘Looney Tunes’ state.
Reality TV Consequences and Criticism
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  • Key Takeaway: Reality television participants face severe, permanent consequences from on-screen behavior driven by sleep deprivation, often without control over the final edit.
  • Summary: Sheena Shay is cited as an example of returning to filming just 10 days postpartum, facing immediate criticism. The audience feels entitled to viciously criticize reality stars online, which is amplified by the lack of control over editing. A petition for a three-month maternity leave for reality TV stars was suggested due to these risks.
Dealing with Online Criticism
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  • Key Takeaway: The healthiest way to manage vicious online criticism is to view the internet as an unreal space where only opinions from one’s closest circle matter.
  • Summary: Bre Tiesi states she does not look at comments and considers the internet not to be a ‘real place’ if she cannot see or feel the person. She dismisses opinions from those she doesn’t know personally, focusing only on her inner circle. This detachment is crucial for mental preservation in the public eye.
Selling Sunset Season Tease
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  • Key Takeaway: The upcoming season of Selling Sunset features significant infrastructure changes due to the dissolution of a key trio, leading to unexpected drama.
  • Summary: The ’little trio’ dynamic that was strong is no longer intact, which impacted the show’s structure. Bre Tiesi felt some individuals were not genuine friends, and the season ‘went really left’ with unexpected developments. The new season is scheduled to premiere on October 29th.