The Jefferson Fisher Podcast

Stop Overexplaining

February 24, 2026

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  • To become pressure-proof, utilize a three-step framework: make your first word a conversational breath, only answer the exact question asked, and control the pace by speaking slowly. 
  • Over-explaining is a recipe for disaster under pressure because it floods the conversation with unnecessary information, giving opponents more material to attack. 
  • Controlling the pace of a conversation is paramount; you control how fast you answer, and intentionally slowing down allows you to recenter and choose words calmly. 

Segments

The Need to Be Pressure-Proof
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(00:00:49)
  • Key Takeaway: Everyone, regardless of status, can unravel under pressure if unprepared.
  • Summary: The host discusses observing confident professionals crumble under questioning and stresses the necessity of being ‘pressure-proof,’ whether in legal settings or everyday business.
Introduction and Podcast Mission
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(00:01:19)
  • Key Takeaway: The podcast aims to improve communication skills to make life better.
  • Summary: The host welcomes listeners to The Jefferson Fisher Podcast, states the mission to improve communication, and promotes the new Next Conversation Workbook.
First Step: Control with Breath
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(00:06:05)
  • Key Takeaway: The first word spoken should be a deliberate, calming breath to recenter oneself.
  • Summary: The first secret to being pressure-proof is taking a ‘conversational breath’ (a physiological sigh) before answering, counteracting the urge to talk fast.
Second Step: Answer Only Asked Question
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(00:10:54)
  • Key Takeaway: Overexplaining leads to disaster; stick strictly to answering the specific question asked.
  • Summary: This segment warns against the tendency to over-explain, which can sound like insecurity or lead to saying things one regrets, using a ‘What time is it?’ vs. ‘Do you know what time it is?’ example.
Third Step: Slow Down and Be Short
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(00:15:03)
  • Key Takeaway: Keep answers short and direct; longer answers invite more scrutiny.
  • Summary: The third step is to be short and direct, remembering that the longer the explanation, the more ammunition is given to the questioner. The host also advises focusing on the end of the interaction to maintain perspective.
Summary of Pressure-Proofing
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(00:21:53)
  • Key Takeaway: Achieve confidence by being in the groove, not rushing or lagging.
  • Summary: The host summarizes the three steps—breath, answering only the question, and thinking of the end—to achieve a confident, controlled state (‘in the pocket’) during high-pressure conversations.