We Can Do Hard Things

Finally Some Wisdom to Move Forward! Dr. Tressie McMillan Cottom

November 11, 2025

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  • The prevailing MAGA story succeeded by identifying an amorphous threat to the American Dream and offering a simple solution ("I alone can fix it"), which resonated because there is currently no compelling, honest, and hopeful competing story from the opposition. 
  • The current two-party political system incentivizes politicians to prioritize donor interests over moral or ethical stances, making good politics hostile to being a good person, especially when difficult truths about necessary societal changes must be told. 
  • True freedom, as exemplified by the enduring members of the Black Panther Party chapter in Winston-Salem, North Carolina, is found not in individual self-focus but in responsibility and service to others, which is a more powerful and freeing form of action than merely keeping up with the news cycle. 
  • Ideas widely accepted as fundamental truths, like meritocracy, often originated as satire or marketing campaigns, highlighting the constructed nature of social narratives. 
  • True fulfillment and happiness are found not in comfort or individual gain, but through organizing and engaging with others around meaningful collective action, even if it requires sacrifice. 
  • Controlling the future necessitates controlling the past; therefore, defending every group's right to remember their history is crucial to resisting authoritarian attempts to erase inconvenient truths. 

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The Sticky MAGA Story
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  • Key Takeaway: The MAGA story broke through by naming an amorphous threat to the American Dream, which people latched onto because they lacked a better, honest counter-narrative.
  • Summary: The story that prevailed identified a threat—whether cultural, economic, or existential—that resonated with people afraid of losing their way of life. This narrative was powerful because it named the fear for the audience, allowing the storyteller to claim they alone could fix it. The story’s stickiness persists despite evidence to the contrary because a compelling, honest alternative has not yet gained currency.
Absence of a Competing Story
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  • Key Takeaway: The Democratic side lacks a strong competing story because leaders are unwilling to honestly convey the depth of existing problems, which require difficult life changes.
  • Summary: The absence of a good competing story leaves a vacuum filled by fear-based narratives; people prefer a dishonest story that offers comfort over a hard truth that demands change. Political advisors avoid telling people their lives must change, even when facing serious issues like climate change. In this vacuum, people listen to narratives that promise relief without requiring personal sacrifice.
Moral High Ground and Political System
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  • Key Takeaway: The current two-party political structure makes it politically advantageous to avoid taking clear moral stands, leading to a system hostile to being a good person.
  • Summary: The failure to call out clear moral issues, such as genocide, is attributed to the fear of social death and losing political capital within the system. It is politically more powerful to risk alienating voters than to build paths of reconciliation, meaning good politics has become hostile to moral consistency. Therefore, reasonable people must accept that the current political system is not conducive to achieving the world they desire.
Electoral Reform Urgency
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  • Key Takeaway: Experts suggest the window for reforming the electoral system is closing, requiring regular people to quickly decide on and rally behind specific demands like Supreme Court reform.
  • Summary: Proposals to reform the electoral system, once considered radical, are now necessary because the political extremes have shifted so far afield. Smart experts indicate that the time for experts to propose solutions is ending, and the public must now tune in to decide on actions like expanding the Supreme Court or constitutional amendments. The critical missing element is a clear rallying cry or specific ask for constituents to demand from their representatives.
Money Hijacks Democracy
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  • Key Takeaway: The Citizens United decision created an arms race for political money, breaking the compact between voters and representatives, resulting in politicians who are no longer afraid of their constituents.
  • Summary: When politicians are not afraid of voters—evidenced by inaccessible offices or ignoring public opinion on issues like abortion access—the system is no longer a competitive democracy. Wealthy donors manufacture candidates and narratives, such as J.D. Vance’s creation, promising personal gain in exchange for ideological alignment. The core issue is that politicians answer to lobbying groups, not the electorate, making them brazenly undemocratic.
The South as a Political Pawn
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  • Key Takeaway: The American South is the epicenter for solving the nation’s hardest problems because it forces intimacy with deep interpersonal factions, yet both political sides exploit its imagery for their own ends.
  • Summary: Progressive ideals are truly tested when implemented in the South, where diverse, conflicting populations must coexist, unlike in more homogenous progressive areas. The South is often weaponized by others as a fictional character—a place of unique racism—to make non-Southern progressives feel morally superior. The Confederate flag iconography, which is now used nationally, is not about land or rights but is a global signal of white supremacy, which is exploited when liberals refuse to honestly confront their own hypocrisies.
Surviving and Thriving Revolutionaries
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  • Key Takeaway: The most effective counter-narrative to current despair is found in the example of activists who survive political movements by continuing to serve their communities, proving that responsibility fosters freedom.
  • Summary: The Black Panther Party members in Winston-Salem demonstrated that revolutionary thinking can be sustained across a lifetime, continuing community service long after official movements dissolve. These elders, despite facing deep trauma from being labeled enemies of the state, integrated their service ethic into their professional lives. For those feeling overwhelmed by the news, engaging in service to others provides a greater sense of freedom than tracking political minutiae.
Origin of Social Concepts
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  • Key Takeaway: Meritocracy originated as a satire intended to mock the idea of working hard for success.
  • Summary: Many ideas taken for granted, like meritocracy, began as satires or marketing campaigns, not as inherent truths. The term ‘meritocracy’ was initially a joke written into the social fabric. Authentic, meaningful realities are often harder to brand than commercialized concepts like the American Dream.
Value of Collective Action
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  • Key Takeaway: Meaningful organizing with others around a shared idea provides greater significance and happiness than individual comfort.
  • Summary: Chronicling societal problems often emphasizes loss, overlooking the gains associated with collective struggle. Gaining community connection requires sacrificing comfort and privilege, but the resulting happiness outweighs the loss. Arguing over meaningful causes leads to greater personal fulfillment than remaining comfortable.
Deconstructing Whiteness as Choice
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  • Key Takeaway: Being white is a constructed idea that often obstructs access to genuine culture, ancestry, and community belonging.
  • Summary: The anxiety fueling movements like MAGA is connected to profound disconnection and lack of community. Whiteness is not an inherent state but a choice, an idea about who deserves power that was backfilled with people. Giving up the construction of ‘being white’ is necessary to gain true culture, ancestry, and belonging.
Selfishness in Revolutionary Moments
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  • Key Takeaway: In moments of collective struggle, prioritizing self-preservation over the movement’s needs mirrors historical patterns of colonization.
  • Summary: A scene from the movie One Battle After Another illustrated the command, ‘Don’t get selfish now,’ as a warning against individual retreat during a movement. This mirrors the historical pattern of refusing to acknowledge the invitation before intervening in other places. Fleeing or prioritizing self-interest reproduces the same problem that initiated historical injustices like Western expansionism.
Layering Identities Over Poisoned Foundations
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  • Key Takeaway: Progressive identities cannot be layered atop the foundational ‘white power identity’ without continuing to poison the well.
  • Summary: One cannot simply layer feminism or other radical identities onto a poisoned foundation; the underlying white power identity must be rooted out first. Power is seductive, making choices critical once influence is gained. This process of deconstruction is a necessary, ongoing practice.
Controlling History to Shape Future
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  • Key Takeaway: The American obsession with the future ironically drives an intense need to control and erase the past.
  • Summary: Efforts to control the national story involve eradicating uncomfortable historical elements, exemplified by recent removals of exhibits concerning enslaved people, women, and Japanese Americans from Smithsonian institutions. To control the future narrative, one must control memories of the past, a core element of American exceptionalism. Defending the right of all groups to remember in the present is essential for one’s own future existence.
Authoritarianism and Cultural Control
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  • Key Takeaway: Authoritarians like Trump overtly attempt to control cultural institutions because they recognize the immense power of enshrined memory.
  • Summary: Trump’s overt actions remove plausible deniability regarding the intent to erase unfavorable history, asserting that America has ‘always been good.’ He understands the power of cultural institutions like the Kennedy Center, seeking to co-opt them to enshrine his own legacy. Those who value culture must be as vigilant in defending it as authoritarians are in trying to destroy or control it.
Desire, Art, and Resistance to Power
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  • Key Takeaway: Human desire, creativity, and intimacy are powerful forces that inherently resist control by hierarchical power structures.
  • Summary: Fascists resent artists and creators because art and desire are realms power cannot fully capture or control. The fundamental human desires for intimacy, storytelling, and imagining the future are powerful enough that people will defend them, even against threats. Power structures must kill the hunger for these human experiences to maintain control, as unfulfilled desire makes people susceptible to surveillance and manipulation.
Simple Action for Change
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  • Key Takeaway: The path forward is simple: consistently show up and act alongside others, trusting that collective effort will eventually spark transformative moments.
  • Summary: The solution to overwhelming problems is not a single blueprint but a simple, repeated practice: every day, do something with other people, and repeat the action tomorrow. Social movements coalesce unpredictably when people have been consistently showing up, creating the environment for ’lightning to strike.’ The work that matters is showing up to keep the movement alive until that unpredictable moment of change arrives.