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- Briegh Morrison's breast cancer diagnosis served as the catalyst for her achieving sobriety.
- The conversation revisits intense past experiences, including Briegh's son's near-drowning incident and early relationship struggles involving substance use, like cleaning a boat while high.
- Dax Shepard and Briegh Morrison's couples therapy ultimately led to an amicable breakup, highlighting their continued deep connection and mutual respect.
- Briegh Morrison and Dax Shepard's amicable breakup, despite its difficulty, was facilitated by their shared ability to remain non-angry and their mutual admiration, even as they navigated the end of their long-term, open relationship.
- Both Briegh and Dax reflected on the intense pressure of ambition and the need to feel 'special,' with Briegh noting that sobriety allows her to maintain deep connection without relying on alcohol as a social lubricant.
- Despite their past romantic relationship, both speakers expressed deep, enduring admiration for each other's character, which they consider a rare and valuable foundation for their current friendship.
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Introduction of Briegh Morrison
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- Key Takeaway: Dax Shepard introduces his former partner, Briegh Morrison, to the ‘Armchair Expert’ audience.
- Summary: Dax Shepard expresses deep affection for his former partner, Briegh Morrison, whom he has frequently mentioned on ‘Armchair Expert’ over seven and a half years. He is delighted to finally introduce her to the audience on the ‘Mom’s Car’ podcast. Briegh is described as an incredible person and mother who has undergone an incredible journey.
Car Preferences and Buying
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- Key Takeaway: Briegh purchased her entry-level Chevy Bolt during the 2021 COVID-related vehicle buying rush.
- Summary: The speakers note the charm of Kristen driving an entry-level Chevy Bolt, which Briegh also owns. Briegh acquired her white Bolt in 2021 during the ‘COVID Mad Dash’ when she urgently needed a replacement vehicle. She previously drove a Volkswagen SUV.
Personal Quirks and Snobbery
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- Key Takeaway: Despite a modest background, Briegh admits to developing snobbery regarding hotels as her financial status improved.
- Summary: Briegh acknowledges enjoying high-end vintage clothing, specifically from AMT vintage, and admits to being a ’trash person’ who ruins nice things. She finds that staying at incredible hotels significantly enhances vacations, contrasting sharply with a recent humiliating experience at a terrible hotel in Norway. She contrasts this with Dax’s ability to be content with basic motels.
Motorcycle Road Trip Memories
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- Key Takeaway: Dax and Briegh reminisce about a past motorcycle road trip, including riding at high speeds and visiting unique Wisconsin bars.
- Summary: They recall a motorcycle trip where Briegh managed to read a physical book while riding on the back, despite not holding on tightly. Dax recounts driving 135 mph for 15 seconds on a stretch of highway with no exits, marking it as a thrilling memory. They also recall visiting flooded Wisconsin bars where drinks were only 20 cents, leading them to buy rounds for everyone.
Past Employment and Fire Damage
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- Key Takeaway: Briegh lost a personalized wine key from her time working at the restaurant ‘Vita’ due to the California fires, which also left her house poisoned with lead.
- Summary: Briegh mentions working at Fred Seigel’s restaurant, ‘Vita,’ and losing an engraved wine key during the cleanup after the fires. Her house, though not burned down, tested at 200 for lead levels, far exceeding the acceptable interior level of five. She was prepared for the power outage, having secured batteries and water containers.
Recalling 9/11 Experience
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- Key Takeaway: Dax and Briegh recall smoking cigarettes in bed while watching the 9/11 attacks unfold, viewing that period as surprisingly ‘fun’ in retrospect.
- Summary: The pair remember lighting cigarettes inside their small, smoky apartment while watching the events of 9/11, feeling a sense of ‘fuck it’ freedom at the time. Dax reflects on how terrible their apartment must have smelled for non-smokers like Scotty, who had asthma. Briegh notes that cigarette smoke interiors are a Proustian memory for her, linked to her grandparents.
Briegh’s Cancer Journey
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- Key Takeaway: Briegh discovered her large, undetectable lobular breast cancer via a randomly ordered MRI from a naturopathic doctor.
- Summary: Briegh’s cancer was discovered when a naturopathic doctor ordered an MRI because one of her ultrasound images was missing, causing the right side to light up like a Christmas tree. The tumor was a massive 240-gram, 11-centimeter lobular cancer that could not be felt because it grew like a slime mold. Following surgery, she underwent 30 rounds of radiation and subsequent chemotherapy, which she notes was the event that led to her sobriety.
Coping with Sympathy and Loss
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- Key Takeaway: Briegh categorized people’s reactions to her cancer diagnosis into three camps: those who wanted quality time, those who disappeared because her cancer was too hard for them, and those she had to comfort.
- Summary: Briegh felt she earned an ‘AP level A plus’ in handling cancer, noting that she is highly social and welcomed those who wanted to spend time with her. She was surprised by friends who distanced themselves because her illness was too difficult for them to process. She also mentions that Dax’s ex-girlfriend, Kristen, was initially uncomfortable with Dax remaining friends with his exes, including Briegh.
Early Relationship Dynamics
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- Key Takeaway: Briegh recalls a morning after using methamphetamine where she compulsively cleaned a boat to overcompensate for their substance use in front of a visitor.
- Summary: Briegh recounts a time at Dean and Michelle’s first house where she and Dax were using meth, and she spent the entire morning cleaning their boat while Dax nervously talked to Dean’s father, Butch. This behavior was an attempt to prove they were sober, highlighting a pattern of overcompensating for substance use. Briegh notes that her drinking habit was so obviously untenable that she didn’t have to evaluate if it was worth quitting, unlike friends in the ‘gray zone.’
Parental and Partner Support During Illness
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- Key Takeaway: Briegh’s mother and her best friend, Joya (an ER doctor), provided crucial, non-alarmist support during her surgery and recovery.
- Summary: Briegh’s mother immediately went into ‘go mode,’ managing the household and children while Briegh was on pain medication post-surgery. Joya, an ER doctor, provided direct, unvarnished medical assessments, such as confirming Dax’s father’s terminal diagnosis, which Briegh found helpful. Briegh regrets not reaching out to Dax’s father before his passing, feeling it was disrespectful to Kristen at the time.
Comparing Past Relationships
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- Key Takeaway: Briegh Morrison’s ex-partner, Brad, was ambitious and smart, initially lacking basic amenities like a toilet paper holder when they met.
- Summary: Briegh noted that Brad was ambitious and smart, recalling a time when she installed a toilet paper holder in his apartment because he lacked one. Brad was working as a producer’s assistant on Iron Man, despite already holding a Webby and an Emmy for web content. He is now a high-ranking executive at Marvel, working alongside Kevin Feige.
Breakup and Post-Relationship Fears
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- Key Takeaway: Dax Shepard feared he would never be in love again after breaking up with Briegh, while Briegh questioned if she used a new relationship as a catalyst to end things with Dax.
- Summary: Dax admitted to a deep fear that he would never feel the same level of love for anyone as he did for Briegh. Briegh wondered if she intentionally entangled herself in feelings for someone new to justify ending her relationship with Dax, as they needed to separate. Their open relationship lasted nine years, which Briegh considered successful.
Ambition and Transcendent Self-Image
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- Key Takeaway: Both speakers recognized a tendency to view themselves as ‘smarter’ and ’transcendent’ of relationship norms that trap ’lesser smart people.’
- Summary: Briegh suggested that part of their dynamic involved a desire to rise above common relationship struggles, framing themselves as intellectually superior to those ’trapped’ in conventional relationship issues. Dax related to the burden of ambition, feeling obligated to be special and deliver on perceived potential. Briegh expressed a preference for the world of ideas, suggesting she might have preferred being an English professor or therapist.
Sobriety and Social Participation
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- Key Takeaway: Briegh finds that her sobriety does not diminish her ability to connect deeply, noting that alcohol often gave others permission to commit to deeper conversations.
- Summary: Briegh observes that many people are sad she no longer drinks, perhaps because her drinking previously gave them permission to have fun. She asserts that one of her gifts is being present, and while alcohol loosened people up for deeper talks, she can still stay up late and engage deeply with family sober. Her grandmother advised her that showing up sober initially allows one to feel ‘as drunk as everybody else’ by the end of the night.
Post-Breakup Realization and Future Hopes
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- Key Takeaway: Dax experienced a moment of realizing he was truly single and enjoying it a year after the breakup, while Briegh was deeply hopeful Dax would find love again.
- Summary: Dax recalled a moment in New York City, a year post-breakup, where he felt genuinely single and enjoyed the freedom, something he never felt while in the open relationship. Dax was consistently hopeful that Briegh would meet someone she could fall deeply in love with. Briegh admitted that the breakup was hard because she had envisioned having children with Dax, as they were approaching the age they had set for starting a family.
Career Trajectory and Financial Disparity
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- Key Takeaway: Briegh felt unable to keep up with Dax’s meteoric career success, which contributed to feelings of not knowing where she fit financially in the relationship.
- Summary: Briegh felt she couldn’t keep pace with Dax’s rapidly ascending career, leading to uncertainty about her role in his life. She felt uncomfortable with the financial disparity, recalling buying a thrift store dress for a premiere because she didn’t feel she could afford the dress she wanted. Dax acknowledged he was bad at making her feel like the money was ‘ours.’
Mutual Admiration and Relationship Success
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- Key Takeaway: The core strength of their enduring connection is the profound mutual admiration they hold for each other’s character.
- Summary: Briegh stated that the most significant element they share is the deep admiration she holds for Dax, recognizing this quality as rare in a partner. Dax agreed, expressing happiness that their lives ultimately worked out well, concluding that they ‘did a good job.’